After years of individual counselling with clients and conducting hundreds of workshops and intensive training programs across the country and around the world, I found that there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: to know how to love yourself. – Louise Hay
On the face of it this sounds simplistic and yet it’s so profound.
I remember suggesting ‘self-love’ to someone recently and they literally balked at the idea. Thinking it was corny and that it was somehow ‘selfish’ to do this. However, if we take a moment to reflect and really open our hearts and minds to this concept, I think the notion of ‘being our own best friend’ makes perfect sense!
A useful analogy is the oxygen mask on a plane – where we’re advised to put on our own mask first before helping others. If we know how to love ourselves then by extension we also have the capacity to love others. Wow – from a broader perspective it makes me wonder what could be achieved in terms of world peace when our intentions are pure love and respect.
For some, this can be a tough subject at first, perhaps we don’t know ourselves or we find it hard to like, let alone, love ourselves. This could be due to upbringing or our perceptions. That’s ok – we are doing the best we can with the information we have at the time. The great news of course is that if we are willing, we can change! It may take time but with self-acceptance, patience and appreciation we can live a more loving and peaceful existence.
Love myself reminders:
- Treat myself like my own best friend
- Chill out and have fun – let go of resistance
- Give myself care and attention like I would a young child
- Encourage and congratulate my progress rather than criticise or berate
- Know that everything is a lesson – experiences good or bad are worthwhile
- Guilt, fear and envy are wasted energy and only hurt me
- Have patience and forgive – everyone is doing their best
- I can steer my thoughts in a positive direction
Love is something we can choose, the same way we choose anger, or hate, or sadness. We can choose to forgive someone who has hurt us and begin to finally heal. We can choose to be grateful for what we have. We can choose love. It’s always a choice within us. – Louise Hay
Lightbulb moment: I am enough!
Useful resource: Abraham Hicks – Love Yourself (Law of Attraction)